Two kids. Lots of moves. My daughter went into grade 5 in her fifth school. But they are so resilient. French, move, No French, move, French, move, No French, move… suddenly there is no choice. The French ship has sailed. Not by choice, but due to the fact that my husband serves in the Canadian Armed Forces. But they are so resilient.
My 12 year old daughter announced to me the other day that she is no good at long distance relationships. Seriously? She has lost more close friends than many people have in a lifetime. What she takes away from that is not that her parents keep moving her but that she is ‘terrible at long distance relationships’. But she is so resilient.
I wonder. Am I going to look back at our lives and say that the experience has made them better people, or are we going to look back and say ‘I wish we had done things differently’? My husband lived this life as a kid and he turned out just fine. People will tell you this all the time, but I think it depends on the kid. Depends on the years that you move…
‘But they are so resilient’. Sometimes I wonder if this isn’t just my internal propaganda machine.
I guess we will just have to wait and see.
What do you think? Do you think that our military lifestyle makes our kids more resilient? Do any of you have parent guilt over the choices we make?